Ever had a Girl tell you those four words? Err…..No i’m not talking about “Femi, I Love You”. yes that has actually been said but that is not why we are here. I Am talking about “Let’s Just Be Friends.”
Most times it goes thus.
You meet a girl and initially its genuinely platonic and you talk every now and then and have the occasional hangout.
Just normal as per guys no wan fall hand.
But with time you realise that you talk everyday and subconsciously you are always planning how to see her often and arrange ‘P’.
At this time, you are still in denial that she is just a friend. When quizzed by your friends you claim that there is nothing more to it, but anytime you see her there is just that awry smile on your face, yeah you are not in love but you are smitten by her.(bless your soul)
Then you realise whats going on but most times its always too late as you are in way too deep and you now decide to make the ‘P’ official.
Thing is many babes dun open eye now and if you are not upfront and direct from the off they just think you are a shareful(no pun intended) giver and just tag along for the free rides. And really i can’t blame them. Or can you?
Its unofficially written, Guys are allowed to be h*es and girls are allowed to milk guys. As long as no physical interaction a girl wont see anything wrong and just carry on.
Before any girl kills me, boys are also guilty of this and after getting down with a girl a couple of times and whether for insecurity issues or for clarification purpose she asks “what are we doing”?. The guy says i thought we were just having fun and i’m not ready for anything serious. This happened to a close family member so yeah its no hypothesis.
Anyway, these four words can also be a positive depending on how one chooses to view his glass.
It saves from expending resources, emotions and time and always means you can come back later on and try again. Right? NO? in fact i am lost myself.
Why is it so hard to hang out with someone new for a while without just beginning to develop feelings for the person.
Why is remaining friends with someone cool just down right hard?
Why do we often like people that most times we just cannot get into a relationship with?
Why do cool people at times fall out of our reach?
Why does being friends have the be our only option?
At times we want more than that.
But thats just the pride in us talking.
In the end it might be whats best for us and we know it.
But we cant shake off the “what if”?
WE might not like it but we accept: “Lets Just be friends.”