The Concept Behind Cheating.
Welcome once again to the Ugly Truth, sorry I haven’t really been writing here lately. I have been preparing to appear on some blogs ( yes the love doctor is now in popular demand) hence my absence.
Also I have been working hard on the ‘Date Days’ series, look at the picture below. 😀
I have squeezed a little time out to write on a topic that has been appearing in so many conversations, tweets, blogs e.t.c. Yes it’s the almighty ‘CHEATING’.
I am not talking about dubbing in exams and other stuff like that(go to jamb/waec website for that one), but that thing that happens when a guy/girl decides to go and eat out of another cherry that doesn’t belong to them.
I have had conversations with different people over the last two weeks about this and they made it sound like it was cool and that there was nothing wrong with it.
Before y’all attack me, I know it’s the 21st century and I should get on with it right? I say hold up and hear me out.
We are all Christians or Muslims right? I know the Bible very well and I know it frowns strongly against fornication and Adultery. I am not a 100% sure about it but I’m supremely confident the Quran does say so too right? Someone tell me I am right.
Except I missed the memo, these rules haven’t changed one bit so why are we all saying/acting otherwise.
Don’t get me wrong, I am no saint and have made a few mistakes in this short life I have had.
But i will NEVER go out to brag to people that I was having “extra-marital” affairs or anything like that because believe me i will feel ashamed. You might think you are cool when doing this but in hindsight you will realise you are the fool.
What’s there to brag about not being able to remain truthful to someone you are in a relationship with and openly profess your love for?
But people(especially we guys) go about doing this and expect our spouses to be faithful to us as well? Oh no no!!! Life doesn’t work that way.
They say Karma is a female dog abi? Oh well…..
Mind you cheating for me doesn’t start when there is physical contact between the two said people. I believe there is something called emotional cheating.
In simple terms, your body is in a relationship but your mind is no longer there but for reasons unknown you refuse to just bone the relationship or get serious. Sounds Familiar? Guessed so
The minute you start to get irritated with your better half and you don’t see a reason to bridge the gap quickly and just go and sulk about the place, you are bound to find someone else’s arm to fall into.
This can lead anywhere and I mean anywhere.
If you really like a person and decide to go into an “exclusive” relationship with them I feel you owe it to them to be faithful and be of your best behaviour.
Why start looking for something on the side or put yourself in a situation where you know you will be tempted to get something from someone outside?
Surely the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Or is it?
I also think it is rather hurtful to both yourself and your other half to be cheating on them. Its rather MEAN if you ask me.
Don’t do it because all your friends are doing it and encouraging you to do as well.
Don’t be fooled because it’s a societal Norm. IT IS WRONG.
The minute I decided that I was going to remain a faithful husband/boyfriend sometime in 2007, I became a better person for it.
It gives me a very satisfying feeling to remain true and faithful to anyone I am with at any point in time.
Yes I have been called names and dissed but frankly “I DON’T CARE”.
I know many will say “I have tried” or “it is hard” but don’t give up.
It’s the end times and trust me to Err is human so do not despair and beat yourself down, and also don’t just accept it and do nothing about it, you can still change your ways whether you are Married or Unmarried.
I think our generation owes it to our unborn kids to give them a better legacy than this rubbish one we have inherited from our own parents and fine-tuned to please our needs and nature.
If i can change i am very sure you can too. Yes you.
No matter how tempted you are, JUST SAY NO.
If you don’t like my own views feel free to share your own views and why?
If you like my views, well thank you and continue that way.