@bule_jr: ok this wasn’t on the menu as well but I decided that it could fit the bill because many guys actually like to do this kind of paroles. Enjoy.
@O_Toby & @bule_jr
You have had that first date, it wasn’t bad but you know it could have been better.
You have sweet-talked your way into seeing her yet again as you will like to make amends but this time instead of going out, you offer a chilled day at home and ‘surprisingly’, she agrees.
The first visit is your second chance to make a first impression if you already haven’t or win her over for the second time but this time ‘Permanently’ ! I always put more effort into visit like this particular one.
Because she is coming into your abode and she will make all her conclusions about you from the scent of your flat to your personal hygiene.
She is going to want to fill in any gaps that she couldn’t on that first date.
I am not saying you should completely go out of character but a certain part of your *natural cool A-Game* MUST surface.
Women in our time certainly don’t like to be freaked out, so you must avoid things that ought to be romantic but a little bit too much.
What am I on about?
Decorating your bed with rose petals, candles lite all over, and a funny scent from those wall fresheners (the worst).
I mean your not trying to propose to her or make a baby. Keep it simple and real.
I always start my preparation with fresh sheets, what happens if she decides to sleep over and you have sheets from two fortnights ago? Surely she won’t return.
Next off, is making sure your wardrobe is in order, trust me they love to have a sneak peek at what your collection looks like and how tidy it is. The room in general has to look sane enough to get you a chance of scoring(if that’s your plan though).
While I advise you to focus on your room, don’t loose attention of other areas (esp the bathroom, kitchen and sitting area)
Now, she rings the bell. This is your home, so you can’t be dressed like your about stepping to a club or a dinner. I usually go for casual jeans or three-quarters and a t-shirt.
You welcome her, show her round and take her to the living room. (NOT THE BEDROOM).
The usual courtesy should follow, do you want something to drink?, have you eaten? Etc. The answer is almost always NO, but be prepared!
Its your place and she’s new to it. So making her feel comfortable is your role. Engage her in a conversation or watch something funny.
Its always easier when you don’t think of scoring!
Time passes and her tummy rumbles, you might have made food b4 her arrival, but where’s the fun in that? Cooking together brings you closer,even if you are absolutely crappy at it. You cut the onions while she blends, she teases, you laugh…… (Get our picture now?)
At this point you both are comfortable, share a glass of wine, laugh some more and the night might just begin.
This is a more familiar kind of parole for naija people abi? Albeit for completely different reasons. You see as I didn’t call it ‘date’ abi? Yes na PAROLES.
I know for a fact that if the other person can feel very comfortable with you alone, it brings a lot of dimensions into the whole thing.
As long as you don’t go overboard with this, trust me you CANNOT go wrong.
So guys and girls, how do you plan for the first visit ey?
What goes through your minds before a first visit?
Assume that you are both the visiter and the visitee on this one.
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P.S There will be a mystery guest blogger at 1.30pm today.
Anyone that can guess correctly who that person is and tweets #datedaysfreebie at me will get something from me. 😀