Good Ol’ Ego


I’ve had the privilege of studying a great number of couples out on dates and it is undeniable the powerful effects money can have, positive and negative, on relationships.

Without doubt, one of the ways best favoured by people to bond with others is over a good meal and this, on a daily, brings a lot of clientele through the doors of the rather distinguished establishment in which I offer my services. I receive far more couples on dates than individuals and groups of people, day or night, and this has given me the opportunity to observe, to a great extent, couples out participating in the dating game.

Don’t get me wrong now, I’m not claiming to be an expert on such matters. Far from it, I’m just an observer who’s trying to learn from the experiences and mistakes of others before taking the plunge myself. Is this not wisdom? *wink*

Doing what I do requires me to know a few of my costumers really well. A few of them have me really intrigued to the point that in relating with them during the course of business, we begin to relate on a bit more of a personal level. Let me introduce one family I have come to respect and love to you.

The Owolabis come in regularly. They are accustomed to living affluently and coming to a classy restaurant is pretty normal to them. Practically the whole family comes in, individually or collectively, at different intervals during any given week.

Chief and Dr Mrs come in to dinner as a couple at least once a month. Things weren’t always this way though. They started small and humble and worked hard to build the empire they presently control. Dr Mrs once regaled me with the tale, to chief’s embarrasment, of how in their youth, before they were married, he would take her on only cheap dates. She recounted how the park not far from the London apartment she shared with coursemates was his favourite spot for dates because, as a foreign student on scholarship, he couldn’t afford to take her anywhere remotely fancy; and how he would slave over home-made sandwiches and freshly squeezed orange juice or the likes for their refreshment as they picnicked; and how she would make them walk to and from the park because she knew he really couldn’t afford the cab-fare he kept trying to insist they took, all in the name of chivalry. She stuck with him through the early days and now (she would gesture to the grandness around her), just look at the grand way they live.

Now, this would ordinarily be quite an inspiration to me, to work hard, make something of my life and the good things would then come. But all I felt was a strange mixture of respect and pity for her.

Respect, because the come-uppance Chief and Dr Mrs had experienced would solidify the love the wife had for her husband, but pity, because it had only turned the man into the weaker vessel, eroding the initial connection felt towards wife by him.

Coming into wealth he had never been exposed to previously only opened Kashimawo Owolabi’s eyes to the finer things he could have now that he could never have had back then. Things he is determined to now enjoy despite being advanced in years. He rolls around in heavy socialite circles, not for business, but just for the fun of it. Rides in fast and exotic cars that his son should be ridding himself of now. And beds some of the hottest women I have ever… or will ever lay my eyes upon. I can picture that in his mind, his wealth has given him access to the women he would have even been too ashamed to say a simple “hello” to in the days of his youth. He would sometimes bring these women to Greene’s to wine and dine them before heading on to the Five Corner’s down the street, obviously to get his money’s worth in kind.

Further contribution to the pity I have for Dr Mrs are her offspring. They had been born into their parents’ rise into the upper echelon and the wealth would come to greatly affect their outlook on life in general and dating and relationships in particular.

Kudirat, the first child, much like her siblings, had always gotten everything she wanted growing up. Problem here is, she wants everything else! Having acquired a ravenous sexual appetite far exceeding her father’s, she has brought every class of men imaginable to the restaurant. I have seen Kudi, in the stoking of imminent passion, dine government officials, captains of industries and even royalty and at other times, seductively wine homeless men, her own driver and much to my pleasure then and shame now, even the young manager of Greene’s, my humble self. (*-_-)

Kashimawo Jr (Kash Jr to his friends), the only son, in getting everything he wanted, had discovered his own peculiar tastes and then stuck to them. Or better put, stuck to him. I do not believe I have ever seen Kash at dinner here alone with another individual besides Karimu Owolafe. Kash and Kari, to Dr Mrs Owolabi, are just the best of friends, despite Kari’s very humble backgrounds. However, thanks solely to Kash’s influences and access to wealth, they have gone everywhere and done everything together. Emphasis on ‘did‘, ‘every‘ and ‘thing‘ and may I add ‘each other‘? I shall now leave the rest to your perverted imagination. (-_-)

Monie, the baby of the house, seems to be the only one who aspires to live a responsible social life. Oh, I’m sorry, scratch the ‘social’ there. Moni, after all, lacks any semblance of a social life. Always the wise, introspective and perceptive one, seeing the paths her siblings had chosen to take in their dating lives and recognizing the attendant pitfalls, she made her mind up early that she would not fall prey to any gold-digger types, temporarily or permanently, and as such, set her standards high. This one has high tastes. Very exquisite tastes. So exquisite, that I doubt any living person can satisfy them. I have never seen her on a date, here in her favourite restaurant, with another actual person. I’ll admit though, I Have seen her on several dates here, I just haven’t ever been able to see her date. The waiters always remain weirded out when they have to serve two places at her table and she is talking to and laughing with someone in the opposite chair they can’t hear or see. I’ve actually heard them in the back room arguing over whose turn it was to suffer the ordeal of attending her table.

So sad. *smh*

Whenever, I remember the Owolabis in general, I feel a little sadness for the Dr Mrs. Especially after all the sacrifices she made for her family.

Oh, did I forget to mention those sacrifices earlier? Well, my apologies.

Ms Ego Oputachi, while on an advanced medical program at Oxford University sometime in the 70s, would meet and fall in love with an engineering student with a rugged demeanor and a bright outlook on life. Recognising this moslem yoruba boy’s prospects and his immense love for her, she would ignore her very tribalistic father’s threats of denouncing her as his daughter, thereby severing all ties with the wealthy background rife with highly placed connections from which she comes to marry him. Only through much toiling and fighting together against all the odds would Mr and Mrs Owolabi of back then become the influential figures they are now.

In other words, it would appear it is as possible for money not to positively affect the ego of a couple trying their hand at the dating game as it is to negatively affect either or both individuals.

*sigh*

Personally, I don’t need whoever I eventually end up with to be rich or highly connected. I just need her to truly believe in me and I’ll bring whatever she believes to life. I just want to find me my own Ego to boost my deflating ego.

How big is your ego?

 

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48 responses to “Good Ol’ Ego

  1. ooo woweee…..firstttt..woop….
    ok, i really liked this post..is this story real tho? btw, i’v got a Big ego…^_^

  2. I liked the way the story played out and all the different aspects of the influence of money and power on different kinds of persons.

    They say money brings out a man’s true character.

    But Tokunbo, why did you end the story with that dead exit, ehn, why?

  3. This resonates with the ‘Date days’ title and brilliantly brings out the relationships of the characters on dates and how these dates reveal their characters… (See what I did there?)

    At some point though, I knew Toks was gonna tow the gay route (cliché jare)…brother also just sha had to include a demented family member who has dates with invisible people and MzLucyM asks if this is a true story??

    As Afro man also pointed, oga also just had to include his preferences, using date days to sell his market. Thirsty nigga.. “I’ll bring whatever she believes to life..” Ogbeni don turn Life giver. Mtscheew…

    On the whole though, good job. But…

  4. Lovely story, it’s fiction right? Even if it’s fiction I see this playing out thoroughly in reality. I like how you took the time to ensure we see how money or the lack of it affected each person.

    There’s something about growing in affluence that removes common sense in kids, only a few parents are able to achieve that balance with their kids. The “my children will not suffer like I did” syndrome gets pushed too far.

    I am also saddened by the ‘pity’ the writer feels for Dr. Mrs towards her husband because no matter how much wealth is attained after toiling together, I would hate to see a husband or my husband become a ‘weaker vessel’ as you put it. we still want a MAN in our life, at least I do no matter the time and experience.

  5. This story just scratches the surface of the madness of what ego and affluence can cause..but it was well told. the shades of each character and the “trust-fund kid” experiences.

    Toks, what happened to that ending???

  6. Hahaha! Near-faultless penmanship.. Little to correct. Well worded.
    Sirqastic’s comment tho.. #priceless! Lol!

  7. Hmmn… I’m confused.
    How big is my ego uhn?! 7.542 inches.
    ‘Ego’ as per money isn’t anywhere near enough, guess I’m just gonna get rich or die trying.
    Now to my favourite Ego. 😀 She’s not big at all, 5’6 and I think she’s a size 8. However, Ego has a big ass o! And nice perky boobies too. Wish you luck with finding your own Ego. I’d ask her if you like…

    Larry.

  8. Men are weak. Kill them all. about the kids, she’s to blame. I know very normal but wealthy people. It’s all about upbringing. Good write up Toxic San.

    • Kill them all?! Why evuls?!

      You’re right about the upbringing. Depends on the people involved and not solely on the wealth.

      Thank you, ma’am *bows*

  9. Owo – labi | Kash | Greene | Kudi | Ego |
    Well played. toxic man, Well played.

    This line : “Let me introduce one family I have come to respect and love to you”. Kind of clashes with the rest of the story.

    Otherwise, brilliant.

    As to the meat of it, I think its a bit of a simplistic view of the way money affects people but the truth often lies in simplicity so its probably true in many ways.

    • *bows* Thank you, brother.

      You’re certainly right about that line. It was somehow missed when an earlier direction was being reconsidered. Should have restructured it.

  10. Money creates so many pathways. . . it takes discipline n know-hows to choose wisely; attributes clearly lacking in most of the characters depicted in this story. kool writeup

  11. Nice work Toks. As usual. You just had to use my surname, never mind the classic british university references, scholarships, sans engineering degree. You even inadvartently got my mum’s name in there somehow! At some point I was really getting suspicious. Paranoia or what?

  12. …And they ask why I love this man 😀

    I enjoyed it..
    Perfect blend of everything I like in a story.
    Balance..

    And I laughed too.

    I like your ego(s) btw ^_^

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  14. “Personally, I don’t need whoever I eventually end up with to be rich or highly connected. I just need her to truly believe in me and I’ll bring whatever she believes to life. I just want to find me my own Ego to boost my deflating ego.”

    Amen… She will (and does).

    As usual, Love It.

    *slowly walks away*

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