I have had a very very short time on earth and in that little period I have seen so many people underrate themselves, under-value themselves and some just plainly look at themselves and see absolutely nothing worthy. To me, this is simply a recipe for disaster.
Human beings will seek to get as much as they can from such people, be it physical or material as long as they are sure that you don’t know your worth and are simply looking for people to approve of you.
Well today, true to my style and theme I write this to all insecure girls out there and hope this helps you.
I can’t speak for everyone out there but for myself I would say, I’m a decent guy(at least many babes have told me so) :p and I will like to believe that there are a number of decent guys out there.
I tend to always want to look out for the best in people. Half the time I ignore their faults and although it comes back to haunt me a lot I always feel I have done my teeny weeny bit in helping the person.
And if I tell a girl I like her, tharizzit for me. But I’ve come to learn that many girls will rather block someone out because of insecurity issues and other related woman palaver but how I wish that for that moment in time they will just trust that we are not all out to ‘use and dump’ you.
This is my Motto:
If I meet a girl and she thinks she is ugly, not my fault, I like you just the way you are.
If I tell you I like your feet and you tell me you think you have ‘yams’, I like you just the way you are.
You hide a part of you when we are in deep conversations, well I would like you to give me more but still I like you just that way.
I tell you that you have a wonderful shape and all you see is a fat blurb, well I like you just the way you are.
I tell you that you have nice eyes, you say you need contact lenses, I like you just that way.
I tell you that you have a great sense of humor but you keep hiding that part of you because your ‘ex’ didn’t like you, I still like you that way.
I tell you that you dress well but you like going out mostly at night so that people won’t scrutinize you that much, well I like you that way.
Believe me just this once and let us together come out of this dark alley you find yourself in.
All I’m saying is, not all guys want a perfect girl and a girl that is ‘all that’. All we want is someone who is comfortable in their own skin and who is ready to learn and improve herself. #shikena
But you see, even as a decent guy there is a limit to which I can ignore your insecurities and not allow it affect me.
Another ‘decent’ guy might not be so patient and quickly move on to the next P and leave you in a worse condition.
Other guys will happily do ‘chop & clean mouth’. (God dey)
You need to start to see a better you before anyone else will see a better you.
You need to build your confidence and not depend on your mood or state of mind to know whether to smile or not.
There is someone out there that will fall absolutely and madly in love with you ‘THE WAY YOU ARE’ but you have to be ready and allow them love you. If not, they will get away.
Now you might ask how does someone go from being insecure to being a confident person.
*inserts beyonce’s Who Run The World*
I might not like her but in ‘your own world’ you have to first believe that you run it. You are in charge of your life and only you can determine what goes on in there.
You have to have a great structure support i.e. Family and friends. Refer to my post on this topic so that you understand who and what friends and family really are and the role they are to play.
For me, you have to have a personal and wonderful relationship with GOD. There are things that only He can understand and will definitely just calm your nerves and give you an unexplainable warmth in your heart. Don’t believe me, Try it today?
Ask yourself this question: when you wake up in the morning and look at the mirror what do you see?
So, again I have come with all my crazy and funny stuff I know, I wrote this 1month ago but it didn’t feel right to post it then.
Insecurity has robbed people of discovering themselves. Now all we see is people bending themselves to fit the ‘spec’ of the person they are with at any particular time. This is so not right! Or is it?
What’s your take on the whole issue?
How can you and I be of help to people that are insecure?
How can we make relationshiposphere a better place?
As usual share your opinions in the comment box.
P.S. For the first time I wrote on someone else’s blog and tried my hands on humour. Check it out at http://kevinwithanl.wordpress.com , its titled Must Read. Lemme know what you think. Thanks.